Tag Archives: relationships

eThoughts : July 1, 2012: Decisions, Part I

Brought to you by A Beta-Society Member Speaking Up™, a division of Book-in-Drawer Publications™. A “No” uttered from the deepest conviction is better than a “Yes” merely uttered to please, or worse, to avoid trouble. Attributed to Mohandas Gandhi The upfront disclaimer is that the following is simply a beta-society member speaking up. I will […]

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eThoughts : Our Relationship and Influence With Perception

One thing about the involvement/no involvement paradox is that it is always about involvement. Even a hermit is involved in one way or the other. Spring break looms and my lady friend and I are headed to Kauai. Besides being a professor, I’m also an Academic Senate President. That means that vacations are not the […]

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eThoughts : April 1, 2012: To Be Involved or Not To Be Involved—That is the Question

Interpersonal interactions can be a bit frustrating. One wouldn’t think there would be so much politics in such interactions, but alas… I get we’re all scared in some way or another. We all need help in some way or another. But until we learn that we don’t need others to be lessor for us to […]

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eThoughts : The Palaces of Hell

Brought to you by, Attempts at Sobriety and Levity,™ a division of Book-In-A-Drawer Publications.™ I am not going to pine for the past. I cannot imagine trying to live off the land or water. I cannot imagine being constantly at their mercy. I like cell phones, computers, television, and all of our technology and conveniences. […]

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eThoughts : July 1, 2011: The Slums of Heaven

Brought to you by, Watch Out for Lightning,™ a division of Book-In-A-Drawer Publications.™ Going on vacation to visit relatives, friends, and old acquaintances is always interesting and my latest visits were no exception. Those close to us are an important part of life, a respite that can help mitigate the hell that sometimes swirls around […]

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eThoughts : Equanimity

Brought to you by, Reality Theater,™ a division of Book-In-A-Drawer Publications.™ Navigating through life seems to be a lesson in equanimity—though that doesn’t mean one has to sit idly by while life’s carnivores chew away on them. It does mean that we might be careful making attributions about why such events happen. Cause and effect […]

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eThoughts : More For a New Year

So, what if the end of the Mayan Calendar—apparently set for December 2012—is correct? How shall we live until then? I’m not suggesting we cash out and spend like crazy—that could be a monetary mess if we keep on living. I am suggesting we cash out on the current economy of our interpersonal interactions. Personally […]

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eThoughts : We Are

It seems to me that any good relationship deserves an occasional deep look. It’s a risky situation to be sure. Try finding out that the real basis of a relationship is a house of cards. However, we need people and sometimes it’s better to have some kind of relationship than no relationship at all. But […]

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eThoughts : Just Beyond Projection, Part II

It was 1972, the year I turned 25, and inflation was afoot—at least in my small economic world. Though the year or two before, I could manage to live on five-dollars a day, I now had to have a budget of six-dollars a day. So, when I bought the car while traveling in France—a 1960 […]

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eThoughts : August 1, 2009: Just Beyond Projection, Part I

It was summer of 1971 and we were in a later-model Volkswagen Beetle off on the first leg of a three-week tour of the U.S.—well, as much as we could see in that short a time anyway. It was late at night and we were somewhere east of Phoenix, Arizona. The three of us were […]

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eThoughts : Speaking of Commencement…

A funny thing about taking care of each other is that it generally requires each other. A medical doctor is not going to get very far without the cooperation of the patient. An intimate relationship is not going to get very far without the cooperation of both parties (or all the parties—insert your own joke/interpretation […]

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eThoughts : Passion and Commitment

Besides the role of intimacy in interpersonal relationships, passion and commitment are considered by many to round out the best of relationships. Keep in mind that these big three are not meant to have a static relationship, rather that the three interact in such a way that sometimes intimacy is the lead, at other points […]

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eThoughts : March 1, 2009: Intimacy

Let’s start with a human relationship definition and not a completely dictionary one: Deep intimacy is the sharing, acceptance, and growth (declines can lead to growth in truly intimate relationships) between two or more people of all things personal, including strengths and vulnerabilities. This definition is not just about the individuals involved, but includes the […]

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eThoughts : Learning to Listen: The End of Relationship Chaos

When we only hear the pain or embrace in ourselves, we have effectively blocked out a major part of the world around us. Those screams we hear that announce we haven’t received what we want can be siren songs calling us to crash on the cliffs of our fear. And that satisfaction in getting what […]

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eThoughts : Ahhh, Depression

Depression is inevitable, however it manifests itself. It’s a depressing world. More often than not, it’s depressing interacting with people. More often than not, our politics are depressing, our work is depressing, it’s depressing we don’t play more often, it’s depressing that things seem to be getting worse. It’s depressing how long a list it […]

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eThoughts : The Soul of Us

What if we defined and lived like soul is a state of being nurtured? What if our work not only brought us money, but peace and healing? What if our schools taught in such a way that students felt it safe to learn—that being wrong and having time to learn were positive and basic ways […]

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