eThoughts : The Art of Drama

The apparent necessity to manufacture drama in our daily lives amazes me—not that I’m sitting in the catbird seat about it all. Certainly there is plenty of naturally occurring tragedy and drama without adding to it. But many humans seem to be rather impatient about naturally occurring issues and race headlong into creating drama while waiting.

Do we really need to dismiss another’s religion or politics? Do we best protect ourselves and our families by becoming enraged at all of the injustice that prevails? Do we add to that injustice by jumping into the frying pan with others and their drama? Do we have to manufacture enemies? Why isn’t it all right to have others disagree? Why isn’t it all right to have others say no to us? Why is our sense of dignity only upheld when others respect us?

Oh, blah blah blah.

I recently had someone ask me about loss. Loss is real. No matter what, we will all lose what we love. However, on closer examination, maybe what we are really experiencing is change. Maybe the hurt is unavoidable—a necessary component of change. After all, the womb ecologist cannot keep the status quo. But maybe we’ll experience hurt differently when we stop asserting loss and begin seeing change.

I recently heard someone state that sexual motivational has something to do with the size of another’s genitalia. Okay, sexual motivation and body size are real. However, one’s sexual desire is not utterly dependent of the size of one’s body parts. Body parts, sans surgery, are what they are. Breast size, posterior size, small vagina, large penis, etc., etc., might be initial attractants, but knowing how to manage motivation is probably more of an issue in the long run.

I also heard about a family disturbance. Apparently the police were called, again. The person telling me this knows that getting angry only made it worse—that particular emotion didn’t protect a thing. They couldn’t believe the unnecessary drama. But some members of the family had had enough of being harassed. Seems reasonable—harassment is not something fun. But they got tricked into going too far and the police were called on them, not on the one doing the harassing. Yike!

Hey, I’m a psychologist, even if I’m not a clinical one, so I hear things. Plus I’m on the web with my stories and my drama. As I said, I’m not in the catbird seat.

But I do find it interesting. Managing change seems like a huge undertaking. It’s in the small day-to-day issues all the way out to global issues. We’re not so good at it. Yet. But since we can’t stop change, it seems likely we’ll catch on eventually. Not that what we catch onto won’t change. But maybe in noticing change, we’ll be less likely to invoke drama, except as entertainment.

That could be lighter, even while it’s changing.